We All Get Trapped in the Linen Cabinet

My day started off with a faint scratching.  It was cat claws on something, a milder version of the cringe-worthy nails-on-a-chalkboard sound.

“Catty, what are you doing?”

Nothing.  Silence.

I sip my coffee and begin to deal with notifications:  Facebook, Twitter, heaps of crap email.

That sound again.

“Catty, what ARE YOU DOING?”

I look around and no cat creating chaos.  I looked in on the cat box.  No cat creating a mess.  I looked around the living room where the cat sometimes rebels and poos anyway.  No mess.  I sit back down on the couch.

Nails-on-chalkboard sound.  CRINGE.

“Mercury?”

A faint mew.

“Mercury?”

I look around, doing a 360.  No cat in his usual spots.

“Mercury?”

A faint mew.

I open the linen cabinet. ¬†Mercury, sitting atop a pile of towels, stares at me. ¬†Somehow, when I was putting the towels away late last night, I had failed to notice he had gotten in there, and apparently spent the night there. ¬†I had serious cat mom guilt. ¬†I’ve spent most of the day hugging and petting this little guy.

I won’t be able to ascertain how long Mercury wanted to actually spend in the linen cabinet versus how much time he was actually trapped in there. ¬† However, I’ve come to appreciate something very important. ¬†Sometimes cries for help are faint. ¬†It was that soft mew that led me to him. ¬†If our furry friends have this issue, then certainly our human friends do too. ¬†We have to be better listeners and curious listeners, not just listening for the sake of hearing, but listening for the sake of learning and hopefully, helping.

Everyone has their own linen cabinet. ¬†For some it’s depression and for some, a rarely-spoken-of trauma. ¬†Some spend a lot of time in the dark, just waiting for a door to open. ¬†If you haven’t heard from someone in a while, are you listening closely enough? ¬†Are you giving them space to be heard?

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Development Hell

If you’re an industry person, you may have heard this term or used it–development hell. Development hell refers to the often chaotic, messy, frustrating business of getting a script ready to go into pre-production. ¬†No script comes to a¬†producer perfect and camera ready.

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Draft 1

We like the script, but there are few things that we need to change. ¬†Here is what we want changed: ¬†add this character, expand another character, take away the annoying mom character–and can you get this down to 90 pages?

Draft 2

This wasn’t what we had in mind. ¬†You know, ¬†I had this really great idea for some comic relief at the beginning, since it’s a heavy drama…

Draft 3

This is a mess.

Draft 4

Why is the subplot so much more interesting than the main plot?  Should we go a different direction?

Draft 5

We should go a different direction.

Draft 6

Is this too political?

Draft 7

It’s coming together, but we need to find a compelling role for (insert expensive actor’s name here).

Draft 8

Repeat process, starting above.

 

Churchill said,

“If you’re going through hell, keep on going.”

Hollywood’s Problem Starts in High School

The success of Wonder Woman and the live action Beauty and the Beast has generated a great deal of discussion about women in cinema and woman-centric narrative. ¬†A Variety article pointed out, though, that despite record box office, women, “made up only 7 percent of all directors working on the 250 highest-grossing domestic releases in 2016. That represented a decline of two percentage points from the year before.” ¬†Without getting too heady or too political, I need to point out that women’s narratological problems start off long before a screenplay gets optioned by the studios and directors are hired. ¬†It starts in high school, with the ways we are taught narrative structure.

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David Lynch, The Cinematic Shaman

Very little causes my jaw to drop, but tonight, David Lynch, you have done it. ¬†Everyone was oohing and aahing over last week’s episode of Twin Peaks, a chorus of WTF-s over the nebulous and at times, horrific images. ¬†I expect that from Lynch. ¬†What I didn’t expect was he to channel me or me, him.

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Harry Dean Stanton understated-ly sang “Red River Valley”, a decades-old folk ballad of love and loss. ¬†You would almost miss it if you weren’t listening carefully. ¬† My jaw dropped. ¬†That was the theme song of “Seeking Valentina” an award-winning, Lynchian-esque short film directed by Armin Nasseri, which I starred in and helped him produce. ¬†It was so odd, because it seemed like Harry Dean Stanton continued right where our theme song left off. It was beyond weird–like David Lynch.

Here’s my version of the song, which played over the end credits of “Seeking Valentina”. ¬†Check out the trailer of the film. ¬†It will be playing at the Hollywood Dreams Film Festival in late August. ¬†Curious? ¬†Read Char Hardin’s review of Seeking Valentina, comparing my character to Laura Palmer.

David Lynch, you have blown my mind.  If you channeled us, we are honored.  If we channeled you, we hope to do it again.  We love you David, and the amazing journeys you take us on, always a little cuckoo and a little dangerous, just like you.

 

Reeling in Our Focus

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There are so many distractions.  Sometimes, in our hectic lives, we have competing priorities, which can make focusing even harder.  This past week on What Women Want Talk Radio, Judy Goss and I had guests Christine Hassler and Nancy Ganzekaufer, who coached us on how to make our lives more reflective of our deeply held priorities.  If you’ve been overwhelmed by your to-do list or suffering from a bad case of analysis paralysis, you’ll find the candor of Christine and Nancy refreshing.

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Sometimes I Press the “Random” Button

Sometimes not everything is peachy in Kristin-land. ¬†I have my ups and downs. ¬†There’s that catchphrase, “The struggle is real.” ¬†Well, the stupid is real too and some days are full of very real and very consequential stupid.

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I have had to learn how to manage a few roller coaster situations ¬†in the last few months. ¬† I’ve had to work on checking in with myself and I’ve found a surprising source of happy-my Tumblr. ¬†My Tumblr has been godsend the past few months.

My Tumblr consists of mostly things I find fun, interesting and make me happy. ¬†I can’t tell you how many times I’ve pressed the “Random” button, seen a photo I’ve long forgotten and broken into a smile. ¬†It’s my happy bank.

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There’s a lot of rancor on social media. ¬†It’s the zeitgeist. ¬†However, I think we all need a little digital happy place, one that we don’t feel the need to impress too much or grow following, just a space to let those memories that make us happy “be”. ¬†If I were craftier, I’d scrapbook, but then I’d have to carry it around everywhere. ¬† Considering my penchant for mislaying things, it’s probably best that my happy bank is digitized.

My point is, sometimes life hits hard. ¬†It may be difficult to see the blessings. ¬†You may be barraged by stupid. ¬†When those times come, it’s important to remember the good times. ¬†Fill your happy bank and your heart will always be full of gratitude when you need it most. ¬†For me, it’s a small space on Tumblr. ¬†Explore what works for you.

 

The Concours d’Elegance, A Beverly Hills Tradition

The Concours d’Elegance, A Beverly Hills Tradition

Dubbed one of the “300 Unmissable Events” of the world, the Concours d’Elegance is a car show–Beverly Hills Style. ¬†Staged on famed Rodeo Drive on Father’s Day, hundreds of car aficionados come out to celebrate some of the worlds most sought after cars and have been doing so for 20 years. ¬†The event is free and open to the public and the public did come out in droves! ¬†The Concours d‚ÄôElegance is the largest public event held annually in Beverly Hills. ¬†A unique mix of guests, including car collectors, families and international visitors and residents from Beverly Hills and the Westside came out to celebrate Father’s Day in ambiance only Beverly Hills can provide.

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From the hottest cars on the market today to the most rare vehicles of yesteryear, these cars are beauties.  I was especially enchanted by the McLaren 720s from Auto Gallery of Beverly Hills.

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The amazing cars on display included the 2015 Ford Mustang, a 1927 Rolls-Royce Phantom and a McLaren 12C. The coveted automobiles are displayed along iconic Rodeo Drive for auto-enthusiasts of all kinds to admire up close. ¬†Here’s a few of my pics!